Either way, that's a lot of people out there you could potentially connect with. Match is a premium service—you can sign up for free, browse users, send "winks" and get matches for your own profile once you've filled out the lengthy profile questionnaire , but if you want to actually contact anyone and converse with them, you'll need a premium subscription to the service to do so.
On the one hand, it sucks that Match requires you pay up just to communicate with other users, but on the bright side, you could argue that making people pay just to reach out weeds out the people who, well, you really wouldn't want to talk to anyway. Advertisement Those of you who nominated Match shared some of your success stories meeting your significant other there, but also all noted that Match felt the most mature of all of the dating sites you tried—the most elegant, or at least grown up.
Where a lot of the services are either aimed at younger people or more casual encounters, many of you said Match felt like a service you were using to go on dates and find real long-term partners. It wasn't unanimous though—many of you bemoaned the cost associated with Match, and said your experience yielded a bunch of dead accounts and unresponsive people, which sucks when you're spending money to communicate with them. Read the good and the bad in the nomination thread here , or this thread here.
OkCupid OkCupid is completely free, meaning you don't have to pay to see more matches or to unlock specific features that may make it easier for you to find someone interesting. At the same time, because it's completely free, the array of potential matches you get can be wild and varied, to say the least. There are entire blogs around the web dedicated to the types of people you'll find on OkCupid, and part of it is because the service is rapidly growing, free, and accessible to everyone.
Granted, that also means that if you're looking for the most possible matches, and the service is very proud of its matching algorithm. When you sign up, you fill out a remarkably lengthy profile full of questions that will be used to help other people find you, and to help you match other people. Mobile apps for iOS and Android help you take your search with you on the go, and stay in touch with people you plan to meet. Advertisement Those of you who nominated and praised OKCupid were some of the few who pointed out that you met your significant others there, and your match was—at least for the time being—a success, so congratulations!
Seriously, so many success stories in the nominations thread. Many of you bemoaned OkCupid's buyout by Match. You also explained that if you do go OkCupid, QuickMatch is the way to go—you'll meet interesting, compatible people that way. However, they do have a live help service at their homepage to talk you through joining.
Uses compatibility testing to match you with someone who shares the same worldview as you. The lengthy survey you must complete before you sign up. It is s of questions long and asks many probing questions about religion and moral views. The price and process mean only the dedicated remain — but equally, can lead to people dropping out mid-process. Free to join and to have limited contact with members. You can connect with Facebook so getting started is much quicker than with other sites.
A one step Facebook log-in process leads on to a few simple questions the most obvious — height, kids, whether you drink or smoke , a description and a photo — then you are in. You can browse a selection of pictures and ages before logging in, anything more specific requires you to become a member. Members can search by interest, location or age. To use the site fully — sending unlimited messages to other members — payment is required. As with many free or low-cost sites, ads can be frequent and feel spammy.
However, perhaps controversially, arguably this is more of a pro than a con — as the saying goes, opposites attract! But too many filters and rigid check-boxes can have you dismiss huge numbers of people at once — something that apps like Bumble, Happn and Tinder tried to do away with though that brings its own set of issues. One 5ft 10in friend reports she saw only potential men to browse when she logged in to Match. When she reduced her height to 5ft 9in, that rocketed to almost 2, A full 1, men would have unknowingly discounted this amazing person because of 2.
It seems unavoidable that if we have filters and tick-boxes for features and likes or dislikes, we could be cutting off literally thousands of potential suitors because of something we might have thought minor or irrelevant if we met in the flesh. Yet many friends of mine who had previously ruled out anyone with children on a dating site are now happily dating or married to single parents they met in real life. With judgemental tick-boxes they would have filtered out the very person they are in love with now.
But the moment they spoke in real life, they were hooked. The moral of this story is: Be open minded, people! Plenty of Fish Pros: Quick to join, lots of interactions, constant flow of fresh members. Which sounds like a hella challenge… Cons: So large it can be time-consuming to keep on top of communications and filter through the members, though Match.